If you want to look stylish, intelligent and sexy: get yourself some "secretary glasses". That’s how I call them and when it comes to dating men, I am equally successful as my friends who wear contact lenses.

Not that I have another choice…

My eyes are cylindrical, meaning: they look like a rugby ball. Buying discount contact lenses is not an option.

I need special contact lenses that adjust themselves. This kind of contact lens solution sounds more high-tech than it is though.

Unlike disposable contact lenses, my lenses will have an extra weight at the bottom. With each flicker of my eyes, the lens will adjust itself again.

Vain as I am, I did try out these contacts but… in vain

My eyes got way too tired of always having to adjust to the lens changing position. And I am wearing computer glasses anyway when in the office.

The positive part is : I can still wear coloured contact lenses, as long as I keep my secretary glasses on

How to choose glasses?

You need to go for the 4 "S"

Size, Shape, Shade and Style

You could just go for favorite designer glasses, but did you know there are glasses for every size of face? If you go to a good optician, they will have different sizes of the same model: your face doesn’t have to fit the glasses, the glasses will fit your face!

With shape we mean the shape of your face. Always take your face as a starting reference and find the right glasses for it.

• for long and oblong shaped faces: choose glasses with wide frames and curved edges, to balance out your face’s length
   
• for round faces like mine: choose glasses with straight top and bottom frames. Especially avoid square and round frames as they make your face even look rounder.
   
• for triangular faces: choose glasses with curved rims
   

Our next S is "Shade" : according to your colour type you choose the colour of your glasses.

• "Warm" shade people have a yellow tinge to their skin and their hair is either black, honey blonde or red. An Asian girl like me is a warm type. The following color glasses will suit warm types: gold (my favorite!), copper, tortoise, khaki, camel and cream.
• "Cool" shade people have a blue or pink cast to their skin and their hair is either brown, white blonde or white. The following color glasses will suit cool types: blue, black, plum, rose brown, jade and magenta.

Our last S stands for Style. My favorite style of course is the sexy secretary look : a pair of thick framed glasses. But of course it all depends on what kind of look you are going for:

• if you go for glamour, choose Jackie O style glasses
• if you choose for quirkiness and individuality, go for John Lennon glasses suggest .

The best way to decide which style you like is to go to an optician and try different pairs on. Make sure your optician has all the time in the world, go shopping with your girlfriend and do ask advice on all the salespeople in the shop (they should more or less all agree that the glasses you are choosing suits you well).

So next time you buy sexy secretary glasses:
don’t forget Size, Shape, Shade and Style!